On Failure in Relationships

I want to be able to fail with you.

Not because I want to fail. But because I know that failure is not the main predictor of relational success.

The main predictor is 'can we fail and then get back on track?'. Can we rupture and repair? That's the more important question.

So if I outsource my articulation of our difficult conversation to a chatbot...if I ask it to be the linguistic intermediary...I'm not building our relationship, I'm propping it up with an artificiality that doesn't actually solidify our foundation (even if it's advice helps preemptively smooth over a potentially rough patch). 

And I'd rather have bumpy but real instead of smooth but outsourced. There's a lot we can outsource to AI, but connection isn't it.

So, I want to be able to fail with you; and you with me. I want the full experience of humanity...because relational optimization is actually chock-full of failure.